Mother and Motherly guilts

I was just wondering about a thought that flashed to my mind when I met a friend of mine who left her job to take care of her child,"that why her why not the father???Why only mothers feel guilty for not spending quality time with kids???Why only mothers takes the responsibity if anything wrong happens to the child???Why the mothers are the only dependable human being in the family???why only 18-34% of women get back to the work after first child???
Once a mother is always a mother"is it the hormone or nature or belief or upbringing or duty...I dont know but the statement holds good with every mother...working or stay at home.
If the mother is working ,she haunts her thoughts with guilt that she is not spending time with kids and if she is at home she always questions whether she is doing justice with her upbringing while balancing her non- working image frustration and love towards her kids.
At times I ask question to myself WHY only mothers feel guilty why not Fathers....Is it only her responsibility or it's just her nature to take everything on her???
When such questions arises we blame the partner or parents; may be, but in my view its just the social setting, that we live in, makes it difficult to forgo a father's job then the mother's.This social conditioning which is given to all the Indian girls sensitize them to the risky zone of guilt!.Charity begins at home...correctly said,but hardly practised.We need to initiate a change in our familiee,the society will change automatically.


This guilty zone is waiting to get clear with a fresh thought of sharing responsibities.

Identity War

Hello, This journey is of a girl's childhood dreams to a woman with shaky vision. I come across alot of women who are "Homemakers" and when I try to categorize them I fail to get an exact demarcation, all have same dreams, hopes and dilemma. My purpose of starting this Blog is to share my experience during my Journey on the beautiful road..Called Life. MAKING OF A "Homemaker"......challenges, growth chart,vision,mission etc. etc......hold on its not that serious. I want you to enjoy each bit of it and do share if you relate with it at any point in time. I am a homemaker...managing my home and taking care of my three boys. Two are official kids and one adult behaving as a kid, in fancy words you can call him a hubby. Each morning begins with a justification that whatever I am doing today is the best that I can do for my family and at the same time I clarify that "my family" includes my identity too. The next step begins with motivating self for the monotonous activities with a pinch of excitement added by my little ones. Being at home after a fling of eight years in corporate world seems challenging but if you make peace with your over enthusiastic career horse than you can live a meaningful and selfless journey with a smile. Holding my thoughts I began the day and lived upto everybody’s expectations and then the darkness of night crept in and started knocking my mind's closed doors and suddenly I woke up with a thought that what I did today was for "my family"....M I loosing my identity somewhere??? The question was asked....well! The reply is inevitable. I took all the courage to answer the question asked by my inner self. I finally decided what is Identity for me....Hey!all have their own meaning and it’s the question to be asked by self and should be answered by self only. So now it’s my turn to tell you what I mean by MY IDENTITY By Identity do I mean my NAME..NO, I think it’s how I see myself when I see myself. It is how I perceive myself .I was confused and the answer was not easy...with a lot of ups and down, approvals and denials, warfare and peace..I concluded what means Identity to me..It’s a thing which is used as per the convenience ...It’s not the NAME for sure. It’s the belief that I have within myself and how I see myself in the mirror each day. And I love myself, the way I am and love the way feel comfortable in my own skin, my own thoughts and my own dreams….That’s my Identity!